1. Do Be Yourself: Everyone puts on their best face when meeting new people, but don’t lie about yourself or pretend to be someone you are not. The person is going to eventually find out about the real you anyway and don’t think that they will be too “in love” to break it off with you for being dishonest and fake.
2. Don’t Talk About Your Ex: It’s okay to have a two-sided conversation about your past relationships, but whatever you do, don’t keep mentioning them and don’t go on and on raving about how great they were or complaining about how awful they were.
3. Do Ask For What you Want/Need: Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Don’t be afraid to ask for the best treatment and never allow anyone to mistreat or harm you emotionally or physically.
4. Don’t Air Your Dirty Laundry: It is important to be yourself, but the person you are dating doesn’t need to know or hear about every skeleton you have hiding in your closet. You don’t have to confess every dirty deed you did while on a drunken binge—it affects the way people see you. Especially if you have changed a lot, let them get to know the “you” of today—not yesterday. Read more…
Due to the successful six week run of Wedlock or Deadlock, hosted by Dr. Michelle Callahan, FOX has decided to air the series for an additional six weeks.
Currently the show is airing in the following markets:
New York: 11am on WNYW (FOX 5)
Dallas at 11:00am on KDFW (FOX 4)
Tampa: 2:30pm on WTVT (FOX 13)
Phoenix: 2:30pm on KSAZ (FOX 10)
Memphis: 2:30pm on WHBQ (FOX 13)
Starting Monday, September 14th, the show will air in the following markets at new times:
Dallas at 11:00am on KDFW (FOX 4)
New York 12:30pm on WNYW (FOX 5)
Memphis at 12:30pm on WHBQ (FOX 13)
Phoenix at 1:00pm on KSAZ (FOX 10)
Tampa at 1:00 on WTVT (FOX 13)
For more information, visit www.wedlockordeadlock.com
There are many ways to make a marriage work and be successful. Each couple will have their own understanding and expectations. What may work for your parents or friends may not work for you, so it’s most important that you and your future spouse are in agreement on how your relationship will work. Below are the key areas you should think about before getting married and important questions you should answer before you take a walk down the aisle. How you choose to address each issue is up to you, as long as the two of you can agree on how things should work.
Whatever you do, don’t expect people to change their feelings about important issues like sex, religion or children after you get married. If your partner is telling you that they don’t want to have kids, don’t think that getting married will change their mind. If you aren’t comfortable with their current position on certain issues, you shouldn’t plan to walk down the aisle until you are satisfied with your future spouse’s position on things. Of course things may change, but don’t count on it.
I’ve talked to countless couples on Wedlock or Deadlock who foolishly believe that love and marriage will magically solve their problems. Do your homework first and have these often difficult conversations before you make a lifetime commitment. The last thing you want to do is look back and be angry with yourself because you knew that you and your partner weren’t compatible in certain ways but you ignored that information anyway. Even if you and your partner don’t agree on all things, if you can find a way to understand each other and compromise you still have a chance to find “wedlock.”
Finances
You and your future spouse should discuss your current debt and your future financial goals. Are you spenders or savers? What is your plan for how you will pay your monthly bills, pay down your debt and save for retirement? Are you going to combine your money or maintain separate accounts? Do you plan to check-in with each other before you buy certain things or limit how much you spend individually considering your shared expenses?
Today on Wedlock or Deadlock, Tenaja and Antonio revealed some of the difficulties couples face while being engaged but living separated by a long distance. I think they are a great couple with a lot of potential for a successful relationship, I just want them to make sure they are both comfortable and certain before they walk down the aisle. So here are five tips for them or any other couple in a long distance relationship, to help them keep their relationship strong and intimate until they can reunite permanently:
1) Communicate on a regular basis
It is so important to stay connected to your partner and to communicate on a regular basis. In addition to talking about the serious and important things, it’s okay to just talk about the regular day to day things going on in your life. You can even mix things up and change the way you normally communicate by using email, instant messaging, video chat or writing a letter.
2) Do things together despite the distance
Find creative ways to participate in shared activities. For example, watch a TV show (like Wedlock or Deadlock, LOL!) or movie at the same time and then talk about it afterward or even during the show. Play an online game together or read a book at the same time.
Today’s episode of Wedlock or Deadlock really bothered me because it was so clear that Kataneh allowed Aaron to take advantage of and disrespect her because she doesn’t realize or appreciate all that she brings to the table as a friend and a partner. I see this in women all the time and have certainly been there myself. It is so important that everyone, male or female, know their worth in life so that when you meet someone who doesn’t appreciate you, you know to move on.
Kataneh’s situation is far too common. Here is an attractive woman, with her own business in Beverly Hills, who has supportive family and friends. Yet, she is dating a mooching, disrespectful, self-absorbed and selfish man who all but said that he is basically doing her a favor by dating her. Well, as long as she believes that, then she will continue to tolerate it, when she should be dating a man who thinks she’s so great that he thinks he better hurry up and marry her before someone else does!
How do people end up in these situations? There are so many ways and many reasons. Most of the time it is definitely a self-esteem issue, where despite the love you receive at home and your success in the business world, if you have not had much success in your personal life, you can be a totally different person when it comes to romance. You may feel like you can’t wait around for Ms./Mr. Right or that you can’t resist Ms./Mr. Wrong. Imagine how hard it is for those people who come from unloving homes to go out there and demand the love they’ve never experienced and don’t even know for sure exists.
