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Does it matter if your potential soul mate lives in another state?

  • When you finally meet someone who could be a potential soul mate, does it matter if they live in another state?

  • Distance does not mean that you cannot pursue a friendship or romantic relationship with someone who lives somewhere else. With today’s technology of text, chat, email, video chat, free internet phone service and social networking sites, it is easy to keep in touch with someone long distance on a regular basis. Sometimes the distance allows people to really get to know more about each other before they get physically involved.

    I do feel however, that before you or your partner decides to move closer to each other or move in with each other, that you take a significant amount of time getting to know each other. You still need to follow some of the same rules of dating that you would follow if you were living in the same place, which include taking your time to really get to know a person before you decide to move in, get married or have kids. Oftentimes, when you just talk by phone, you don’t get to know what someone is like on a day-to-day basis in person. It can be like an extended honeymoon period where everything stays very happy all of the time because you aren’t doing the more boring or difficult things like deciding who is going to cook dinner or clean the bathroom. Instead you may just be sharing all of the good times and avoiding the bad, which you can’t avoid when you are together in the same space. It may be that on your short visits to see each other that you have a great time, but those short visits are not the same as living together.

    Sometimes the distance between people is what keeps them excited about seeing each other, like the idea of “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” You will have to make sure that you and your partner don’t get bored with each other when you are always able to be together. Whatever you do, don’t be discouraged by the distance, just take it slow. Good luck!

    Dr. Michelle

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