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The Top 7 Ways a Man Can Earn a Woman’s Trust.

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1. Don’t be evasive/Take calls in front of her.

Some women are flattered when you tell them that you don’t want to be disturbed while you are with them and therefore you don’t want to answer your phone. However, for some women, that raises the red flag that you have something to hide. So if you don’t have anything to hide, then go ahead and answer and don’t walk away or leave the room, acting like you don’t want her to hear what you are saying. Also, don’t stay on the phone forever!

2. Provide reassurance/Tell her how you feel about infidelity and that she has nothing to worry about.

Fortunately for you, women often care more about what you say than what you actually do. They like to hear good things. They feel better when you tell them not to worry and that you only want to be with them–so tell them that. Believe me they go back to their girlfriends and brag about the fact that you said that she is the “only” girl for you.

3. Give full disclosure (but not really)/Tell her when you turn women down.

I hate to say it, but women really don’t want to know the truth, and the whole truth. They want to hear what will make them feel good and help them sleep at night. To share anything more will result in more questions and less peace in your relationship. However, whatever news is good news, should be shared. Therefore, if another woman is interested in you, and you aren’t interested in her and you turned her down, that’s the kind of story women like to hear. They want to know that other women are attracted to you, but that you are willing and able to turn those women down because you are interested in one woman—her! Obviously, you won’t build any trust by sharing stories of the women who you did not turn away.

4. Share your world/Invite her to your house or job.

Women like a lot of information, and the more they see of your world, the more comfortable they become in thinking that they know and understand you. Until they actually see where you live and work, for all they know you could have a girlfriend/wife, and be grossly exaggerating your status at work. When they can see your apartment they get reassurance from a lack of items that don’t belong to them and they can verify that you are usually there alone! With the number of phonies out here, women just want to know that how you describe yourself and your life is the real you. If she can “see” that you are telling the truth, that will build her trust.

5. Introduce her to your “people”/Let her meet or hang out with your friends and family.

When women meet your friends, coworkers or family, those are just more pieces of the puzzle to help them know who you are. When those people seem cool and are nice to her, she will feel that they are less likely to support or encourage your being with someone else, and that they are more likely to promote your relationship with her. Therefore she may trust you more just by feeling that the people around you are trustworthy and “good” people. She will also be flattered that you invited her into your world and that will appear to be a sign of your closeness or seriousness.

6. Clean house/Cut off your Exes.

Everyone likes to keep their options open, but if an Ex or a suspicious girl “friend” is lurking around and making your girl feel insecure that something might be up between you, the ultimate way to show her she can trust you and that nothing is going on is to be willing to let that old relationship go. I know it sounds unfair, but it is an action you can take that says, you can trust me because I am going to eliminate this threat to our relationship. Letting her know that you are no longer interested AND that you told your Ex to back off, will gain her trust.

7. Be a man of your word.

Do what you say you will, and don’t do what you say you won’t. If you promise her something, deliver. Don’t say the relationship is monogamous if it isn’t. As long as you are true to your word, you show that you have integrity and she has to respect that, even if she doesn’t like it.