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Should I “Hook-up” with my Ex?

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Are you still hooked on an ex and thinking about hooking up again? People are always asking me about whether or not they should get back together with their ex. So, if you are wondering how to handle it or whether or not it is a good idea at all, I have answers to your questions about how to deal with the temptation to get involved with someone from your past.

If you are still hooked on your ex…don’t hook up! Particularly if you are a female, dating or sleeping with your ex can re-ignite the flame you have burning for someone who isn’t also carrying a torch for you. Boredom or the “urge to merge” may seem like a good reason to hook up just this once, but chances are that you will have to deal with some very uncomfortable emotional consequences after your interaction.

An ex is an ex for a reason. Therefore, whatever made you want to end it with your ex the first time around is likely to reappear and annoy or upset you. In fact, you should ask yourself why you are willing to go backwards in time to a relationship or interaction that you know is probably unhealthy.

Here are some questions you should ask yourself before you hook up:

  1. Do my ex and I want the same thing out of this situation?
  2. Do I really want to do this or am I just lonely, bored or just want to have sex?
  3. Am I going to be okay after this or am I going to feel guilty or get my feelings hurt?

Is it ever okay to hook-up with an Ex? Is it safe to go back in the water?! It’s okay to get involved with an ex under certain circumstances. If your relationship ended on relatively good terms or unusual circumstances (meaning not the usual getting dogged and screaming “I hate you!”), then there is a chance that there is some good left in it to pursue Sometimes people do change as a result of a break-up and they do return with a new and improved attitude. I think people should just be clear or at least try to monitor whether or not they are hooking up with an ex for fun or to truly reconcile or rekindle the romance. That way they can monitor their expectations and not get in over their heads.

Whatever you do, don’t just hook-up without thinking it through first. You ended this relationship for a reason and having sex now could start something that can’t be finished the way you would like.

Be careful!