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Do you have a right to hit your girlfriend?

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Okay, I understand that people get upset and angry by the things that their partner does but that doesn’t give anyone the right to hit someone else. I have heard all the stories and theories about what Rihanna allegedly did to Chris Brown to “set him off” and I am appalled that people think any of those things are a good reason to attack someone and beat them up. Obviously I don’t know exactly what happened between Chris and Rihanna but I do know that people often blame the victim. Do I think that people do things to anger and tempt their partners? Yes, and those things are obviously not smart, but that still doesn’t give their partner a “right” to hit them.

Right now I’m not talking about Chris and Rihanna, I’m talking about everybody else. Because let’s face it, their situation has just put this issue of dating violence on the media’s radar. We wouldn’t even be talking about dating violence if this hadn’t happened to two extremely popular stars. But since it has, we need to take advantage of the opportunity to let people’s voices be heard and to speak out against violence in dating relationships.

If you feel that your partner is testing your patience and that if they don’t shut up you might slap them, then you better hurry up and walk away before you lose your cool. We can’t start saying that it’s okay to just lose it and beat someone up because they “made” us do it. No one can “make” you do anything. Everyone has to take accountability for their own actions. A woman might do any number of things that make her man mad but we can’t start living in a world that says making a man mad means you are “asking for it.” Both men and women have to take responsibility for wrongly putting their hands on another person. If you don’t like how your partner acts then get a new partner! Is anyone else out there upset about this besides me?