I believe we can learn a lot from each other’s difficulties and accomplishments. I created the Ask Dr. Michelle column to share my advice with many people at the same time, who although they don’t know it, are often facing some of the same challenges. I hope that my comments provide you with some insight into situations that you are facing in your life. If you have a question that you want me to answer, submit it below. I wish you all the best. (I try to answer as many questions as possible, but please understand that due to the number of questions that I receive I am not able to answer every question.)
I love my guy but I always think about my ex. How can I shake him?
First, figure out why you’re so attached to your ex. If you spent many years with him, it’s natural to go through an adjustment period while trying to move on. It’s also possible that you didn’t get the closure you needed and as a result, you re-hash the past. Whenever he pops into your head, try to remember all the reasons you broke up and why your new guy is a better fit—keep a list if you have to! And try not to hang out with him as friends because it makes it difficult to move on.