I believe we can learn a lot from each other’s difficulties and accomplishments. I created the Ask Dr. Michelle column to share my advice with many people at the same time, who although they don’t know it, are often facing some of the same challenges. I hope that my comments provide you with some insight into situations that you are facing in your life. If you have a question that you want me to answer, submit it below. I wish you all the best. (I try to answer as many questions as possible, but please understand that due to the number of questions that I receive I am not able to answer every question.)
I cheated on my boyfriend and want to come clean. Is confessing this selfish or selfless?
Ask yourself: Are you unhappy in or out of the bedroom? If you love your guy (and you practiced safe sex), communicate your needs; maybe you two can work things out. Confessing rarely helps. Most men can’t handle the thought of their girlfriend with another guy, and his ego will likely be bruised irrevocably. But if you think your problems are un-fixable and that you may cheat again, it might be best to end the relationship.